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5 ways to Rekindle the flame in the ashes of your love life


As we approach Valentines Day, I would urge you to take advantage of the opportunity to make thing better in your relationship with you spouse. Here are 10 Simple, yet powerful ways you can rekindle the ashes of your love life:

1. Address every unresolved issue in your relationship

I understand that women feel very deeply about things, but men do too. It is important to deal with hurts and disappointments as promptly as possible. If we allow the sun to go down on our wrath, we run the risk of opening the door to resentment and bitterness. This is never a good place to dwell in a relationship.. It is important, therefore, to resolve every conflict. Repent and forgive.

2. Focus on the little things

Sometimes in life the things that matter most are small things. Little gestures of kindness. Little acts of grace. Little moments of tenderness. Little sacrificial service. All these can add up to spark an unstoppable flame. It really doesn’t have to be a diamond ring – I’m sure that wouldn’t hurt, cuz diamonds are a girls best friend, but the littlest thing to say I was thinking about you today will be more than enough.

3. Speak his/her love language

Our culture in many ways have seduced us into idolizing sex, especially erotic sex in our relationships. Introducing porn, pole dancing, and play toys will eventually leave your intimate relationship with your spouse bankrupt and empty. We need to look for, wait for and celebrate those things in our spouse that turn us on. For some, it’s that look, that smile, the way she wears her, the kind word, the compliment or that fantastic dinner. So, take the time to speak your spouse’s language of love.

4. Not only Victoria has secrets but Victor should too

We hear a lot about how important it is for a wife to visit Victoria Secret, but not much is said about what the man is supposed to do. Needless to say, both of you need to clean up your act big time not just for a big day. It needs to be an ongoing thing if you want to enjoy a sustained, satisfactory intimate relationship.

5. It doesn’t have to lead to sex

Sex is really great in marriage and I think we should do it a lot. But marriage is not all about sex. It is about companionship, friendship, love and a deep connection between a man and a woman who feels deeply about each other. Rekindling the flame in the ashes of your love life doesn’t necessarily mean We should do all these little things to arrive at the big “O.” When the moment is right that will happen. But what if that flame was simply the igniting of love, friendship, companionship or just hanging out?

Take the time this month to spice up your love life. You can do it


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